Life with different possibilities but there is a way...

There are plenty of possibilities to live life differently in this world. There are all kinds of people out there living differently.  Different cultures, different lifestyles, different way of thinking, different jobs etc. I think it is not fair to compare one way of life against the other.  But one thing that we have to be careful about is how much of the activities that we do is taking away from our self.  Meaning we have to check how much peaceful and satisfied are we in our everyday living?  Because all the endeavors that we pursue is try to find completion within us. Honestly if we ask ourselves why we do about what we do?, we will know the answer. It might be building up a family, aspiring for big career, going for big adventure, doing social service etc. If we forget that purpose, we will get lost in that chase/pursuit and might end up in place where we don’t know where we are and what to do in life. It is very essential to put ourselves forefront. Every day we can live with warm, peaceful, loving, safe and secured feeling within us. I think that’s the beautiful way of living and things will fall in place in its own time. We don’t need millions of money for that. We don’t need to rush to achieve something.  Just appreciate the very life that we have been gifted and be responsible for all the choices that we make. Life will bring challenges every now and then. We have to be open for them and learn lessons and move forward.  We don’t need to beat ourselves if we fail in something but we have to make sure that we learn something from it. We just have to relax into who we are.  We have to pay attention from small things to big things that we do and also people that we associate with. If anything is costing us more, we have to rearrange that. We don’t owe our life to anybody and neither anybody to us. Live good, love good and someday leave good. Life can be a beautiful journey between birth and death at different phases of life amidst of different challenges. 

Self preservation

We have to learn to preserve ourselves amidst the different life challenges and stay on top of it. It's never going to serve us well if we lose ourselves for the sake of something(be it a marriage, job, friends etc). We have to put ourselves first and this is not selfish. There is no respect if we lose ourselves.  If we allow, our own close family members might give emotional hits because we are more vulnerable to them. We have to stand up for ourselves especially if our life/health/mental peace are getting affected. This doesn't mean that we have to be arrogant or angry and indulge in emotional fight. We have to use our intellect and deal with situations. We should never accept fear or anger for ourselves. We have to do what is needed for the situation and should not worry about how we feel about them. We are good human beings, we deserve better life and we have to trust that.

My night with myself

Some practice sessions

Opportunity

One thing that I learned early in my life is :-

Any Opportunity is really an opportunity only if it serve the purpose or address the need that we have. World always has plenty of opportunities and possibilities. We can grab any of them based on what we want. That's why it becomes very essential to know ourselves and what we want and be strong and clear with it. We have to stand for something, otherwise we might fall for everything. As a human being, we are much bigger than all the roles that we take in our life. Roles might change, people might change, places might change but we remain steady, clear and calm. It's a beautiful place to be within and integrity blossoms. If we are not clear about who we are, mind/emotions will play its role and it will not allow us to settle down.  We need to find a way to raise above our impulses and distractions. Only then, we can live our dreams. 

Healthy Lifestyle

   Today I spoke to one of my friend. She is expecting a baby. For that delivery she is thinking of bringing her parents to US. She said her mom is doing some drama in coming to help her. With in-laws most of the people will not feel much comfortable. But even with parents, people are not comfortable. She said she love her parents but she can't live with them for 24x7. If she live with them for 1 year, she might go mad. But if they are not well, she will go and help it seems. I'm surprised how clear she is about her people.

My thoughts:-
There is a huge generation gap between us and our parents. I feel sad about the fact that children are not comfortable with their own parents. As human beings within one family, we are not able to cope up with each other though lot of love is there. This is the reality almost everywhere. Many elders are not wise. Sometimes it is detrimental to be with them.  I didn't see this level of divide between our parents generation and their parents generation. . Lifestyle changes are making huge impact on our lives and relationships. Human touch is very important. No machine can replace that. Before giving touch to others, one has to be healthy within oneself. For that, we need to have good healthy lifestyle. If not, we will miss the life.

Distractions in life

அலைபாயும் மனம் பலவீனம். அமைதியான மனம் பலம். 

மனச எப்படி பலப்படுத்தறது?

பகவான்: சத்சங்கம், ஈஸ்வர ஆராதனை, பிராணாயாம்ம் 

Many mahans right from Adi Sankara has stressed on the company of good people. I think it is very essential to keep us on track. There are lot of chances that we might get lost or go out of track from our path while handling day-to-day challenges. Distractions will not get us anywhere.   I think We have to be aware of this. Real satisfaction or fulfillment in whatever we pursue will come only if we live in totality. That's a different quality of life. All the day-to-day activities could be enjoyable. It could be sipping a cup of coffee, eating a delicious food, walking in the park, making love to your loved one, challenging project at office etc..  Distracted mind will neither allow us to enjoy anything fully nor give us satisfaction. Stillness or steadiness of mind will make a total difference. So we have to decide what kind of life we want to live.